I generally like to keep things simple. Often that means boiling down and summarizing what I know and belief into three steps. I was told three steps is the magic number for success. So when I am struggling or find myself in fear and doubt I like to go back to the basics – my three c’s.
- am I curious about what’s happening
- am I willing to use my courage
- am I committed
Curiosity is the magic ingredient for me because when I become curious my energy shifts and the striving, driving part of me relaxes and I become more playful. It is amazing how much more information is available when I am playful and relaxed then when I am striving and driving.
Often through being cuirous I recognize something I am not doing. Then it becomes an issue of courage. Will I step in and do what’s new, or what’s uncomfortable. I use to think of courage as being tough and never letting on that I am struggling. However, now I belief toughness does not take much courage at all. Let’s face it – it is easier to fire someone and never see them again – then it is to have a crucial conversation, give feedback and then show day after day working with someone you may not always agree with or even like. Courage is about not being tough but about being ‘real’- showing my vulnerability and staying in.
Which brings me to commitment. Am I willing to stick it out. I’d like to think of myself as a very committed person to things I say I will do. But I know I can easily get distracted or decide the pain is not worth the gain and then my commitment wavers. Take this Blog – I said I wanted to write daily in the beginning. It’s easy to let a day go by without writing because maybe I have nothing to say or I am busy doing other things. But really how long does it take to write something – to stick to my commitment.
Indeed the 3 C’s are just one quick recipe for challenges and obstacles. Let me know what you think or what simple recipe you use to kick start yourself out of the pit or over a stuck point.