I am not good at finishing! As a very immediate person, I get myself distracted easily. The strength of this personality trait some might say is adaptability. Although I am not so convinced this trait is a strength. There are too many signs of unfinished failure that haunt me to think otherwise. My book, scattered pieces on countless computers. My closet, always piled with clothes. You might think I never do laundry!
These are just some current day indicators of this ‘strength”.
No, I think there is something else all together at work here. Myself, I have come to believe, Polly, my procrastinator is the real instigator of my unfinished mastery!
Polly, has been an important protector of me over the years. Believe or not, her amazing efforts have kept me from humiliation and criticism many times. Her ability to stall, distract and avoid detection has been valuable but may be a bit over done these days. At other times in my life, writing and sharing my story was dangerous. My messy, chaotic presentation kept me well under any radar and able to avoid getting too far out into the world where I might create problems for myself. Yes, there was a time in my life where Polly served me – but not so anymore!
The problem is Polly remains on high alert!
Let me give you a bit of a day to day look at how Polly shows up in my world now.
I decide I want to write this quick post about procrastination. I start typing and decide it would be good to look up the word procrastinate. As I am googling the various definitions and diving into the root of the word, I discover a variety of interesting headlines about procrastination.
One, Two Harvard Professors Reveal One Reason Our Brains Love To Procrastinate (I take a quick look but find it boring).
Two, I find Later, a New Yorker article about a Nobel-prize winner’s relationship to procrastination (which I find much more engaging of course it starts with a cool story. Plus, who doesn’t want to be compared to a Nobel Prize winner?!) and finally, a TED Talk by a known pre-crastinator who took on the task of learning to procrastinate because he missed out on a big investment opportunity by quite harshly judging a couple of his students who he wrote off as losers due to their procrastination who in the end made millions.
While Polly has found relevant information thus far, she doesn’t stop there. Soon I am reading political headlines about our upcoming presidential election, which reminds me that I need to call someone about our upcoming weekend program Find Your Mojo In Montana. So I get on the phone. Then I realize I’m hungry, and we have nothing for dinner. So I get ready to head out the door to the store and think, why not take Rosie to the dog park? She needs the exercise. I better grab a snack before I go. So I wind up making a shake. Needless to say I am soon far, far away from finishing the post and focused in a totally different direction!
Why is Polly protecting and procrastinating this time?!
Polly means well. She loves the rapid intake of information, with a preference for quick reads and engaging activity. She loves gathering random bits of information and finding common threads. She is also very immediate, meaning if she gets bored she’s moves on – thus the inability to read through the Harvard article and get some tips on how to be any different!!
This is not an uncommon course of events for me and Polly! Sometimes I love the variations and distractions. But Polly and I have had to develop a better working relationship. This day’s activity though demonstrates relationships aren’t about being perfect!
However, I have worked on this relationship with Polly for a while now. I have now discovered a path to keep Polly engaged and entertained, while getting things done. (Don’t tell Polly!)
My relational efforts with Polly are the foundation for my new Building Your Mojo program is designed to help people like me develop their own working relationships with parts of themselves that are stopping them from reaching their fullest potential.
See Building Your Mojo Program! is the outcome of how I have learned to relate and develop a much better working relationship with Polly. I am putting her various skills into practice so that instead of stalling and never crossing the finish line, I am moving and making progress!
Not everyone has a Polly, but most of us do get stalled along the path to some of our most important goals. That doesn’t have to happen! There is a way through!
I ran the beta test last month with a fabulous group of folks and got some great feedback.
I have been on shut down for four years due to several traumas. I was suffering from depression, anxiety and I suspect some PTSD. I participated in Susan’s ‘Build your Mojo and Accomplish Your Dreams’ for a few weeks and found it to be really inspiring and I did actually put my foot back in the water. The whole idea is about living the best life you can and this experience has opened my mind up to possibilities I thought were no longer available. I am currently volunteering and thinking about spending a few months in Mexico. A huge step for me and all due to Susan’s leadership and suggestions.
I am now launching a new program. Click this link to learn more.
I love the group sessions because these sessions are interactive and engaging. But I also get that there isn’t always time to dive in and work more individually with someone when things come up. I found people really got value out of having some one-on-one time to help them work through their Polly issues. So I am offering a coaching package alongside the four week group sessions to give you personalized support. You can find it on the same page.
I love that I’m finding a new job for Polly! What better way than to use all of her ample skills than to help others transform their procrastination and tap into and build their own Mojo to move through blocks and stalls. She’ll be answering emails, coaching people, and prepping and delivering the live classes, or running the store or checking Facebook.
If you already know you have your own inner Polly to work with – well check out Building Your Mojo on our thrive! site! Don’t procrastinate – sign up now!
I’d love to play and engage in online learning and relating with you!