All of you who follow my blog know that I have tremendous love and commitment to The Haven and the core programs there. Indeed, I turned my life around there, and still after thirty years continue to learn, grow, and get my beliefs and stories challenged and expanded by leading and taking programs at The Haven.
However, as much as I love The Haven, it’s really not the place, the faculty, or all you folks who come to Haven that have been the reason my life is transformed. Sure, I love being there with you all, but the bottom-line is that it wasn’t five days of a Come Alive or various month long programs that made me different.
No. It’s an on-going, never-ending commitment to Living It – that makes the difference.
Learning is great. Places that support and create a wonderful environment for exploring and discovering are awesome. The Haven is certainly that place, but if you can’t take those lessons home or back to work, it’s just a wow! experience. Nothing wrong with wow! But for me, the test is how I live what I learn everyday!
I often hear someone say in a program – “I can’t be like this back in the real world!!” I challenge that idea because really Haven is the “real world.” Still, I do understand that it is easier to try something new when you are outside of normal or familiar. I would agree – The Haven and Gabriola are that for me.
I think the real work does come when you get home. As I have often shared – fighting cancer was a hell of a lot easier than living beyond it! There was a charge, a fight, and an easy choice when I was dealing with cancer. When the fight stopped, it was harder to keep making choices for my own aliveness. There’s a risk and an edge to that type of living. Still, I do think it is what living is all about!
So if you took a Come Alive or a Phase and you have struggled to Live It back in your ‘real world.’ Join Toby and myself to talk about that challenge.
Whatever you decide I would love to hear from you. How do you Live it, meaning how to you take what you learn and apply to yourself, your life, your relationships or your work? Tell me.